You've checked the boxes. Done the things. Something's still off.
For high-achieving men who've built the career, the income, and everything looks good on paper--and still aren't happy. You’re restless, never satisfied, hollow, or know you are here for more than this. You’re playing small.
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You're not broken. You're just running the wrong design.
You did everything right.
College. Career. Promotions. Mortgage. Family. Material goods.
You executed the plan brilliantly. And now you're living inside the results of a plan you made when you were 25—a version of you who didn't know what you know now.
The cost?
You sit in meetings you stopped caring about two years ago.
You come home and your family gets the tired version of you.
Last week you snapped at your wife.
Lost your patience with the kids.
You don’t have any plans further than your next vacation.
You’re relying on the next vacation to reset and recharges everything.
You are numbing out with alcohol, exercise, or saying ‘yes’ to everything.
The never-ending churn of your schedule numbs you to new ideas.
You haven’t had a real conversation with yourself since you can’t remember when.
You used to think you were special, but now you just feel like everybody else.
You know you’re not as disciplined as you once were.
You realized you stopped talking about what you actually want because you're not sure you're allowed to want something different.
You thought you'd feel different by now. Be further. More settled. More alive. Instead, another year has gone by and it felt eerily similar to the year before that.
All that stuff? That's not ingratitude. That’s not being selfish. It’s what happens when a high-performing man runs the wrong design for too long.
And the worst part? You're good at it. The performance is flawless. Nobody around you knows.
And at the heart of it, you just want to know you mattered. Life is too fucking short to look back and know you wasted your time. Your family’s time. That you played small.
But, take heart…the design can change. That's the whole point of The Adventure Code™.
I spent 30 years in corporate. A lot of it was genuinely good. It fed everything I wanted: family, a house, a life that looked like it was supposed to. It was wonderful…right up till it stopped being wonderful.
The career became a job. And thus began a long steady hum of negative energy…draining me and spilling into my personal life (at times).
To this day I don’t know which guilt is worse…not loving a career I could’ve loved or not doing something about it many years ago.
I remember a moment in which the neighborhood old guy was standing next to me in our driveway. The house and everything was dolled up for my in-laws’ 40th wedding anniversary party.
Old guy: “Dang, Wade, you got life by the short and curlies. You’ve got it all.”
Me: “Well, thanks, Kurt. We’re grateful and lucky and just trying to keep it going.”
Me internally? I was fighting back tears and literally thinking “I fucking hate this.”
Today, after years, I can only shake my head at that moment. How messed up is that? To have the job, the family, the house, everything….and be so twisted up and afraid I was missing out on…something. I don’t know. It’s fucked up. Almost embarrassing to admit.
All I knew was I wasn’t happy, was treading water, was wasting years, and I wasn’t living that big juicy life that I knew was somewhere else.
Watch the video. Wait till the end. If it resonates with you, we should talk.
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LIFE. IS. SHORT.
Life is so short. You need only look backwards to see how fast it goes.
The gift I want for you is for you to know you tried. You didn’t sit on the sidelines. You were not a spectator to your own life. Love and respect yourself enough (and those around you) to be excited about your life. Play big. And if you’re not doing that already….you can.
If that interests you, let’s talk.